Personal Success Newsletter: December 2005

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Issue – Dec. 2005


In this issue of the Personal Success Newsletter:

Thank You!

What’s New

Information – Stop Looking Like Old Cheese, Old Beer, and Old Whiskey

Want To Be An Entrepreneur, A Professional Writer or Speaker?

Guest Author: Kathy MarcoveThe Perfect Gift

I Call It “Fun with a Purpose”

Guest Author: Joe Love – The Mindset of a Successful Team Leader  

Have Your Article Published In This Newsletter

Bob’s Books and CDs Start Your New Year Off Right!

Mind Food

What Makes MCC Unique?

About Bob

Small Print

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Hello and Happy Holidays!

Another year has zoomed by, and we all have quite a bit for which to be thankful. I would like to thank all of my clients, as well as all of you, for being so supportive of my desire to help people make the magic happen in their lives.

Marleta, Kristy, Mary, my associate presenters, and I would like to wish you all the best for next year.

What’s New

This year was fantastic, and next year is quickly filling up with trade shows, meetings, events, and hospitality suites. (We even have dates booked for 2007!) I should have clips of my services at trade shows, as well as my speeches and meeting programs on my main site by the end of January. Additionally, we have plans to put some of my speeches and clips from my audio CDs on the site for Ipod downloads. You can also hear excerpts from my motivational audio CDs at - the 24/7 Internet Radio home of Brian Tracy, Tony Robbins, Zig Ziglar…and me.

My books and other products have had brisk sales. I was awarded “expert author status” at and this newsletter was acknowledged as “one of the best ezines on the net” at  If you have a second, just click here and give me a rating. (Every rating helps. J)

Again, a big “thank you” to all of you for your support. I hope that you find this newsletter enjoyable, as well as informative and interesting. Please keep forwarding it to your friends and associates. Each month, we add on new subscribers, which means that more people will eventually turn their desires into reality. (Remember, we never rent or sell you email address and we don’t accept advertising.)

We do, however, accept articles from outside sources, and I want to thank all the writers who have been gracious enough to share their work with all of us. Putting this newsletter together can be hectic at times and your articles help make the job a little easier. If you would like to submit an article, just email me at

In fact, in this edition, I would like to thank Kathy Marcove and Joe Love for their words of inspiration and guidance.

P.S. Some of you may know that I have been delivering numerology readings in person and over the phone for quite some time. I have always been fascinated with the psychic world and am intrigued with the accuracy of the readings. I have done readings for people all over the world, as well as on radio talk shows and the feedback is amazing.  I enjoy it immensely. If you are interested in finding out more just go to


Stop looking like old cheese, old beer, and old whiskey

Raymond Charles Barker, a minister and writer, once equated people who don’t look for new ideas and challenges to cheese, beer, and whiskey. With cheese, beer, and whiskey, he stated, “You leave it alone. You don’t touch it for years. I know people who haven’t touched or changed anything in their lives for years, and they look like old cheese, old beer, and old whiskey.”

Many of the people with whom I speak after my programs tell me that they want to change their lives or achieve certain goals; however, upon further questioning, they never do anything beyond “wanting.” They “want” but they don’t “look” for ideas or opportunities that will allow them to change their lives. Instead, they stay where they are, in the rut that they’re in, and continue to “want” and feel miserable.

What’s missing in their lives is desire.

It reminds me of the story of this old man and his dog sitting on their front porch. (If you’ve heard this before – bear with me.) And this old man is sitting in a rocking chair and the dog’s tail is under the rocking chair, and each time the old man rocks backwards, the chair traps the dog’s tail and – each time - the dog lets out a growl.

Another man was walking past the old man’s house, when he heard the dog growl. He stopped and watched the old man slowly rocking back and forth, and the dog growling every time the chair trapped his tail.

The man watching this little event said to the old man, “If the chair is rolling over the dog’s tail, why doesn’t the he move?” The old man drawled, “Well, I guess it just don’t hurt that much, yet.”

Desire comes when you’ve had enough hurt… when you’ve had enough pain. Pain is a signal that something is “out of order.” You are feeling “dis-eased.” The people that Barker and I are referring to are the people who have not reached a high-enough level of emotional pain to do anything about their lives - even though “mentally” that is their want.

Ideas are brought about by “immaculate conception.” They do not come from the material or the physical world. They are born in your mind, which has no limitations or constraints. Yet, most of the ideas that many people conceive in their mind, lay dormant or are immediately deleted, due to doubt or fear. The masses tell us to wait and see what someone else will do, what the stock market will do, etc. Yet, the masses do not make change; they do not make progress, the individual does. The masses follow.

Have you reached the top of your “emotional pain threshold?” Does your current condition or situation in life “hurt” enough yet? Do you wish to improve your life, health, wealth, or self-opinion? If so, I can guarantee you that you have received numerous ideas to help you do so; ideas that are pure and correct. Have you followed up on these ideas or did you create excuses and delete these ideas?

Excuses come from your own lack of self-worth - your own fears and doubts. These “feelings” are the thoughts that you have submitted to your subconscious mind and have accepted as being true. I always say in my programs, “Feelings can be changed, and whatever can be changed can be controlled.”

Now is the time to change your “feelings” and begin to accept yourself an eternal being, without limits. When you can accept yourself as a spiritual being without limits, the less limits you place on your ideas. Ideas have no limits, except the ones that we place on them. Refuse to agree with the masses that life is a birth certificate, plus waiting, followed by a death certificate. You weren’t born on a certain day and at a certain time to do nothing but eat, sleep, go to a job you hate, raise a family, and then die. You were born to be “somebody.” You were born to create and grow.

As we approach a new year, let the ideas flow into your mind; welcome them, accept them as clues that will allow you to create the life that you desire. Don’t be like the dog and wait for the pain to get unbearable before you move. Do it now. Look at your desires and dreams and write down the ideas that come to you. Write them all down. Don’t look at why these ideas “won’t work.” Look at why these ideas “will work.”

Don’t ask others for their opinions, because, most of the time, they will only tell you that it can’t be done. (That is their way of controlling you. They don’t want your ideas to disturb “their” lives.) You are an eternal being with no limits. Don’t allow others to “limit” you.

Step away from the masses. Look for new ideas and challenges. Open yourself up to the unlimited power that you have and create the life that you desire. You don’t want to go through life, as Barker stated, looking like old cheese, old beer, and old whiskey. You want to go through life looking as fresh as cool water flowing through a mountain stream; a stream full of life and energy and without limits - just like you.


Want to be an entrepreneur, a professional writer or speaker?

I have met many people who either want to be an entrepreneur or be a professional writer or speaker. For some of these people it is just a dream; for others it is a serious goal. I have been coaching people on how to take that goal and make it a reality for a long time.

If you are interested, please let me know. Most of the meetings are via the phone and the fee is $75.00 per hour with a 2 hour minimum for the first meeting.

However, please note that this is for serious students only. It can stay a dream, if you like. But if you’re really interested, then you might as well as learn from someone who has been there and is doing that.

Email me at to set-up an appointment. Between trade shows and speeches at meetings, numerology readings, writing books, and coaching others, my time is limited. But I do want to see you make your dreams become goals and those goals become reality.

So, don’t delay, email me now at


Let me tell you about our first guest author, Kathy Marcove. Kathy is a Training Consultant and College Instructor teaching classes in Organizational Behavior and Cross Cultural Management.  She served as a Peace Corps Volunteer in Papua New Guinea and has a Master’s Degree from the School for International Training.  You can contact Kathy Marcove at for more information on her customized speaking programs. Kathy and her husband Jeff are wonderful people and I’m sure that you will enjoy her article.

The Perfect Gift

As I was putting together my Christmas shopping list I began to think about the many gifts I have received in my life.  Not the material gifts, but the treasured experiences that have shaped me.  There are the obvious ones—my first true love, my wedding day, the birth of my children.  I received these with an open heart and will always attach great meaning and significance to them.  But perhaps the most valuable gifts were the ones I did not want—the sudden death of my mother, the big job I did not get, the feeling of rejection by a friend. These were things I found difficult to accept as gifts.  I have had a hard time finding the proper place they hold in my life.  At times these experiences have seemed to completely define me, at other times it is as if they never happened at all.

I realize it is a kin to the Christmas morning when you asked for a diamond-studded watch, but Santa brought a food processor instead.  You feel disappointed because it was not the beautiful thing you wanted.  Eventually, when you get over the shock, you try to use the food processor but make mistakes with it.  You even cut yourself on the blade at times.  But over the years you begin to understand how to use it to make things better, and eventually you find a comfortable and appropriate place to store it in your life—not in the middle of the dining room, and not in the garage.  But in a place ready to strengthen you when you need it and to give you comfort knowing that if you can see that unwanted gift of your life as a blessing to create passion and beauty for yourself and others, you can do anything.

In his classic work Man’s Search For Meaning, Victor Frankel, reflecting on his experience in a Nazi concentration camp, writes that “everything can be taken from a man but the last of the human freedoms: to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances.”  We all have that freedom of choice every moment of our lives.  Be conscious of the attitude you choose to adopt towards all that life gives you—the thing you don’t want may just be the most meaningful experience of your life, the perfect gift.

This holiday season and always I wish you the gifts you need, the courage to choose a self affirming attitude, and the wisdom to learn to use all your gifts to empower and enrich your life and the lives of those around you.  Discover how to open your heart to an empowering meaning for each and every experience you are given.



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Leadership and teamwork are fascinating terms with different meanings to different people. Whether you are an entrepreneur, a work-at-home spouse, an executive, a sales professional or an employee, you have to be a leader and a team player in order to accomplish your goals.

Our next guest author, Joe Love, draws on his 25 years of experience helping both individuals and companies build their businesses, increase profits, and achieve total success. He is the founder and CEO of JLM & Associates, a consulting and training organization, specializing in personal and business development. Through his seminars and lectures, Joe Love addresses thousands of men and women each year, including the executives and staffs of many of America’s largest corporations, on the subjects of leadership, self-esteem, goals, achievement, and success psychology.

You can reach Joe at: Now learn a little more about teamwork and leadership in Joe’s article.

The Mindset Of A Successful Team Leader

Everyone talks about leadership but most people can’t define it except in the most general terms. How many times have you heard the word charismatic coupled with the word leadership, as if they were meant to go together? Let’s cut through all of this and look at some facts.

Leadership is part of the political process because it’s done using political tools. Management means moving things around on the bottom line so it comes out right. It’s possible to be a manager of disaffected people. They can’t play off rank entirely, nor would they choose to, because they’re excited about what they see, and they want to share that vision. If your people don’t get it, leaders blame themselves, not the people they’re trying to lead, a sharp contrast to standard management thinking.

Leadership is in shorter supply than management because it’s a great deal more work. It also offers a greater payoff. Leaders literally revel in the accomplishments of their people.

Here are some traits of true leaders, things for you to watch for and emulate.

* Leaders believe that each person is valuable, able, and responsible. Real leaders see leadership as a process for empowering people to see themselves in positive ways, as competent, productive, and important.

* Leaders recognize the potential in others that mere managers miss because leaders are looking for it. They come into leadership roles knowing that empowerment is part of the political process.

* Leaders view themselves favorably as valuable, contributing team members, not managers. They see a field of political equals, not subordinates to be dealt with.

* Leaders know the Golden Rule of good business. They treat people as they expect to be treated. Leaders model the respect they expect in all personal and professional interactions with others.

* Leaders realized that each person has untapped skills that can be harnessed to achieve organizational goals, and at a profit. A leader must have the courage to look for hidden abilities, including those that other managers have written off. Leaders do this by observing, monitoring, and most important, listening.

* Leaders empower people across the board. This means they don’t play favorites. They’re fair and even-handed regardless of their personal feelings.

* Leaders expect to be role models, and they deliberately model the behaviors they want others to adopt. What do others see? Do they see you behaving in ways you want them to copy?

* Leaders are realistic in awarding praise. When giving praise be specific, timely, and accurate.

* Leaders work to develop trusting and professional relationships with everyone. The better you know people, the better you are at reading situations and predicting reactions.

* Leaders are organized, competent, and prepared, even when these are not their native characteristics.

* Leaders build cohesive teams. They do not merely manage people.

Now, let’s examine the art of a political team and harnessing the power of teamwork. What is this thing called teamwork? Everyone talks about it, almost in lockstep with leadership, but most people have no idea what it means.

Teamwork means how you think, not what you do. The political mindset is, “What can I do that will make you want to do it my way?” The team mindset is, "More than 75% of the time, 75% of the people will put the company’s interests first.” Simple isn’t it? However, studies show that only one in ten employees have a team mindset. But you can, and it will distinguish you positively from your competitors. If you’re seen as both a leader and a team player, you’ll be in the strongest possible competitive position.

What is teamwork? Teamwork means that more than 75% of the time more than 75% of the employees put the interests of the team first, even when doing so requires more effort, time, or money, or all three.

For example, if someone, who had not been asked, offered to assist a co-worker who was having trouble with a job or a task, and the helper didn’t think of getting credit or thanks, this would be a strong example of teamwork. This would extend to customers, clients and fellow employees who aren’t strictly speaking, your team members.

The strongest member of a team is the one who shores up and willingly compensates for the deficiencies of weaker members and doesn’t call attention to the fact he or she is doing it. And has the mindset, “I don’t care who dropped the ball. If I can stretch to reach it, I’ll pick it up and get it back in play.”

Team members must talk in terms of “we” not “I.” If you think this is too basic, consider that belonging to the group is the workplace prize for some people. Maybe you don’t share that view, but how does that invalidate what others believe? Belonging is a basic, human need. When employees complain of office cliques, they’re really saying they feel excluded. Management cannot effectively build teams when cliques have power.

Shine the spotlight on each member of the team, regardless of the level of his or her ability. There are always stars, but if only they get the spotlight, the others will relax and sit on their hands. Can you get the job done with only the stars? Certainly not! Smart team builders share all the credit and absorb all the blame.

Canvass the team regularly for individual opinions and respond instantly to complaints your hear on the grapevine. Team-builders never suppress dissent. They go one-on-one with whomever is dissatisfied and meet his or her needs. Why? Because the leader’s attention to their needs is what keeps workers loyal to the team. They know they’re not just one person in a faceless and interchangeable crowd. They belong.

Team leaders always give support and unrequested assistance in ways which don’t cause others to loose face. When you pick up the ball, be sure the colleague you’re helping doesn’t feel diminished. Always make sure you’re coaching and not correcting.

Team building isn’t a guru-driven, mystical process. It’s a political process of brokering and getting the buy-in from others. People don’t necessarily want to be team players, nor do they instinctively recognize the advantages. A good team builder is worth ten good managers when he or she shows fellow employees why participation is in their best interest by revealing the benefits and giving examples.

Team building is an art. It’s learned from role models, trial-and-error and occasional failures. The key element is mindset. The builder’s mindset is, “Is this good for the team? Then I’ll do it. If it’s bad for the team? Forget it!” Credit keeps flowing to team players, instead of surrounding and isolating the team leader, who shouldn’t, if he or she has the right mindset, want that to happen or let it happen.

Copyright© 2005 by Joe Love and JLM & Associates, Inc. All rights reserved worldwide.


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“10 Steps to help You Bring Your Desires to Reality” – AUDIO CD

Do you have a passion, a dream or desire that you would like to turn into reality? Then you will be empowered and guided by “10 Steps To Help You Bring Your Desires To Reality.” This audio CD tells you step-by-step how to take any desire or dream that you have and turn it into reality. Plus, now included on this CD are 5 musically based affirmations. Price: $19.95.

Masters of Motivation - bOOK

Bob’s first book has been called a “must read” by business leaders and a “roadmap for success” by scholars. Perfect for the entrepreneur, home based business, manager, employee, or executive. Get the combo pack of “Masters of Motivation” and “A Motivational Moment” CD and save 10%. Books are personally signed by Bob Garner to you or whomever you designate. Book price: $12.95. Combo pack price: $25.00

A Motivational Moment –audio CD

If you enjoy stories like “Pass Me By” and its application to your goals, then you will love the audio CD, “A Motivational Moment.” “A Motivational Moment” is filled with a variety of stories tied to practical ideas and information on the topics of sales, worry, success, teamwork, and more, all on one empowering CD. Each story includes appropriate music to make your listening experience not only empowering, but also fun. Get the combo pack of “Masters of Motivation” and “A Motivational Moment” CD and save 10%. CD price: $14.95. Combo pack price: $25.00

Trade Show Selling Power - AUDIO CD

Do you want to make more sales from working at a trade show? Would you like to leave a show with more qualified leads and appointments? Learn how to use the power of words to get more appointments and more sales. In this CD, I teach you how magicians, mindreaders, hypnotists, lawyers, and politicians, use words to get people to respond or act in a certain way.

If you work trade shows, I will teach you how to quickly qualify an attendee and get that attendee into your exhibit for further penetration; how to make appointments and follow up in a way that will amaze your new potential customer.

These same techniques can be used in the field. You can enhance your presentations, more effectively find your client’s hot buttons, and close more sales.

What I teach you are tried-and-true selling techniques that I have personally used to grow my business for over 20 years. I teach these techniques in my Make the Magic Happen for Sales People workshop and the feedback is phenomenal. These techniques are the true secrets and they work. Price; $69.95


If you have ever had the phone ring and you knew who was on the line BEFORE you answered the phone – that’s ESP. If you have ever been humming a tune and then hear someone else humming that same tune – that’s ESP. We all have that power, but most people fail to develop it and use it. Edison, Einstein, Freud, Jung, Adler… all believed in ESP and many other historical people and celebrities learned how to harness that power

This book will show you how to begin to harness that power. ESP – UNTAP YOUR PSYCHIC POTENTIAL features 15 easy-to-do experiments, plus a history of ESP, a glossary of terms, and an extensive list of resources, as well as score sheets and ESP cards that you can print yourself.  This makes for a great gift! Price: $12.95

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“If I haven’t touched it in the past 6 months, I either give it away or throw it away.”

Eugene Burger, professional magician, respected teacher to

magicians, philosopher, author.

“The head never swells until the mind stops growing.” 



“You have to believe in the impossible.”

                                                Howard Head, inventor of the first metal skis and the Prince oversized tennis racket.


“Many people dream of success. To me, success can be achieved only through repeated failure and introspection.”

 Soichiro Honda – Founder of the Honda Corporation.

“Sooner of later I’m going to die, but I’m not going to retire.”

Margaret Mead, anthropologist

“About a third of my patients are suffering from no clinical definable neurosis, but from the senselessness and emptiness of their lives.”

 Carl Jung,  psychologist, psychiatrist, writer.

“A staff cannot function properly unless it is a united family.”

                                    General George S. Patton

“Praise people whenever you can, it causes them to respond as a thirsty plant to water.”

 Mary Kay Ash, founder of Mary Kay Cosmetics.

“The surest way for an executive to kill themselves is to refuse to learn how and when, and to whom to delegate work.”

J.C. Penny,  founder of the J.C. Penny Company



My company, MCC – Motivative & Communicative Concepts – is known for helping its clients maximize attention and quality leads at trade shows and for making meetings and events fun and exciting.

My associates and I are specialists. By that, I mean we specialize in mixing a business or motivational message with magic and fun at corporate functions, worldwide. That's all we do. We are not general practitioners that perform at a variety of places - only corporate functions. Just like when you go to a doctor, there is a world of difference between a general practitioner and a specialist. If the outcome that you desire is critical (such as at a trade show), you want a magician/spokesperson who can attract crowds to your booth and get you targeted leads. Or at a meeting for customers or employees, if you want a speaker who is not only entertaining, but also has proven and powerful content - then you want a specialist.

Again, if the outcome that you desire is important (and when in business is the outcome not important?) get a specialist. That’s us. So, give us a call now!

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Bob Garner is a business and motivational speaker who captures minds and tickles funny bones at meetings, trade shows, and sales training events around the world. A successful entrepreneur for over 20 years and the owner of two thriving companies, Bob travels the world of behalf of his Fortune 1000 corporation and leading association clients assisting them in making the magic happen. A member of the American Society of Training and Development, Bob is also an author and writer for numerous business magazines and trade journals on the topics of employee motivation, sales, success, and other professional and personal development issues.

As a keynote speaker and seminar leader, his informative, entertaining and customized presentations provide proven ideas and strategies that can be immediately put to use; as a trade show expert, his clients increase trade show traffic and boost ROI, and as a kick-off and wrap-up specialist, Bob delivers fun and excitement to meetings and events.

By reinforcing key points of his presentation with amazing demonstrations of sleight-of-hand magic, ESP and mindreading, as well as clean humor, inspirational stories, and polite audience participation, Bob Garner is able to impact and connect with any audience in a unique and powerful way.

Additionally, Bob is recognized as an expert on paranormal and psychic phenomenon. He is a member of the American Society of Psychical Research – a think tank of scientists and academia who explore paranormal activity worldwide. His writings on these topics have appeared in a variety of paranormal, psychology, and educational websites and ezines.



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